Sticks & stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Wanna make a bet? Words do hurt, but it’s up to me to choose the best way to deal with it. Well, I love to just stew in it awhile, lick my wounds, and judge the person who used those hurtful words. Second guessing myself is always a part of it; that always requires a lot of energy and time. Oh! Wait there’s more–then the stomach begins to churn…rumble…gurgle. It’s noisey! I can’t help it!!
Hold on! I have been learning that I CAN help it! Listen, I’d like to think it would be easier without hurt feelings, but I see where these situations are an opportunity for self awareness and healing. It provides a time to observe–Learn, Observe, Think.
As you can guess, my feelings got so hurt early in the week. The person was a jerk; he didn’t even know…..STOP! I have to figure this out using my new tools. It’s been said that hurt feelings may be an indication of something inside of me unresolved. If in the world without there is something producing hurt feeling, there must be something in the world within still unresolved. So, what do I do with hurt feelings? It’s all my choice. I am in the driver’s seat. I have free will–we all do! Shall I allow the hurt feelings to ruin my week? my weeks? Shall I give that individual the power to ruin my life that day? Or week? Once again, it’s all my choice. It’s not unusual for any of us to judge ourselves for having hurt feelings or for judging the author of those hurtful words. But who will be given the power? Me? Or that person?
I allowed the hurt feeling. But I am in the driver’s seat! I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy. Repeat that! People are going to act and behave according to their own rules. When we are blind-sided by a person’s behavior that is not what we expect, BAM! Hurt feelings. Do we accept the hurt feeling? Then learn from the hurt feeling? Then…let it go? Who has the power? I do! You do! Who wants to sit and listen to the stomach gurgling, churning, and rumbling all day?? I don’t any more! I have Hanaal to read, cards to go through, walks to take in nature, and affirmations to revisit!! My observations indicate that I am better off letting go! I feel so much better…..”sigh”. Thanks!